Course curriculum

  • 1

    Welcome!

    • A message from the instructor

    • How to use this course

    • Before we begin...
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    Module 1: What's Love Got to Do With It?

    • Why You Can't (and Shouldn't) Live Without Love

    • How to Love with Your Head and Your Heart

    • What Gets in the Way of Getting Along Better

    • 6 Principals of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

    • Test your learning
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    Module 2: Five Essential Tools for Stronger Communication

    • The Art and Science of Mindful Communication

    • Tool #1: Opening Your I's

    • Tool #2: Listen By Heart

    • Tool #3: Avoid Head-Butts and You-Turns

    • Tool #4: Stop Dr. Phil-osophizing

    • Tool #5: Set the Table with Care

    • Test your learning
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    Module 3: Five Essential Tools for Deeper Connection

    • Understanding the Dance of Connection

    • Tool #1: Lead with a Need

    • Tool #2: The Praise that Pays

    • Tool #3: Make a Love Routine

    • Tool #4: Create Overlap and Space

    • Tool #5: Find True North Together

    • Test your learning
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    Module 4: Five Essential Tools for Conflict Transformation

    • Dont Manage Conflict, Transform it!

    • Tool #1: Mindful De-S-calation

    • Tool #2: Dropping the Rope

    • Tool #3: Using Time-Out and Time-In

    • Tool #4: Target the Heart

    • Tool #5: Find the Off Ramp

Real Love Doesn't Have to Be Real Complicated

What if there were communication tools you could learn in days that could transform your relationship for a lifetime?
"We get stuck having the same fights over and over again... We used to be so close, now we barely talk to each other... We pretend to be happy when we're not... We can't seem to fix any of this!"


The problem with relationships is that we've made them too hard. Lost in words, emotions, and expectations our interactions can become a mess of tangles and knots. Our fights often begin as attempts to reach each other or as efforts to protect precious parts of ourselves. Over time, though, if we increasingly feel alone, frustrated, or hopeless we tend to pull away and start to hide. We can end up bouncing between conflict and avoidance -- feeling confused and unhappy.


For love to work, it needs two things.
It needs to be real and it needs to be simple.
It needs to be real simple!

Real means risking to bring more of who you are to the relationship. This is where intimacy comes from. Love won't work if we are in hiding. Simple means communicating and connecting by getting at what's most essential, by getting to the 'heart of the matter!' We do this by saying less but expressing more. We do this by understanding love's basic mechanics and what gets in the way. I can help you with all of this!

Whether your relationship is just starting out, in midstream, or well seasoned by the end of this course you'll have the knowledge and skills you need to build a relationship that works, lasts, and inspires.

Stop arguing, stop worrying, stop pretending. Start building a real simple relationship; one you can love and enjoy, not just endure.
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Introducing: Real Love Made Real Simple

Powerful communication tools you can learn in days that will give you a happier and healthier relationship for a lifetime

In this course, I'll teach you 9, easy to learn and apply, techniques so you can quickly make improvements in the three most important areas of your relationship: communication, connection, and conflict management.

I'll show you the basic mechanics of love and attachment. Understanding this will dramatically shift the way you see how you and your partner get trapped in conflict and how you can free yourselves too!

I'll coach you around the right words to use in difficult conversations when the words you're using now seem to come out wrong.

I'll give you the tools you need to be more of who you are with each other so you can see how real love grows when we hide less and risk more.

By the end of this course, you'll be able to use your head, as well as your heart, to build a relationship that works, lasts, and inspires.

Reserve your spot today!

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Head and Heart Required

I'll teach you what you need to know with your head so that you can love more with your heart

What makes this course unique is that I'll be stretching your head and your heart! You'll need to actually know something about the science of how love and relationships work if you want to make love work. At the same time, you can't love someone theoretically! You'll also need to practice the art of vulnerability, responsiveness, and kindness.

Learn to Sail Across the Three C's

Communicate effectively, Connect deeply, and transform Conflict so you can the weather the storms of your relationship, find safe harbor, and enjoy smooth sailing.

  • Communication

    You need healthy communication skills to stop fights before they start, to build intimacy, to facilitate collaboration and cooperation, and to actually enjoy each other's company!

  • Connection

    Learn how to build emotional and physical closeness. Learn what gets in the way.

  • Conflict

    Learn to ease conflict so that you can use it to actually transform strong emotions into vulnerability and intimacy.

Bonus material

  • Download useful content

    Each lesson contains helpful content to download: communication word prompts, worksheets, summaries of important concepts.

  • Unlimited course access and 100% satisfaction guarantee

    Once purchased, the course is yours to engage with as often as you like. Your enrollment fee will be refunded if for any reason you are not happy with this purchase.

  • Test Your Learning

    Each lesson contains a follow up quiz to reinforce essential take aways.

Joe Butler MA LMHC

Licensed Mental Health Counselor

Joe Butler MA LMHC

With 30 years experience in the mental health field, helping others isn't just a job -- it's a calling. I specialize in working with emotionally charged and/or emotionally distant couples, folks suffering with anxiety and panic, and people longing for a life with more meaning, purpose, and joy.

Sometimes we're looking for practical help, other times we want something a little deeper. I teach both! In fact, practical tools are often times just what we need to get to the heart of the matter and to a life that is richer and more rewarding!

My education, training, and supervision is in psychodynamic psychotherapy, existential psychotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy (and acceptance and commitment therapy -- a more recent extension of CBT). My couples work is informed by the Gottman Method, Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT), and attachment theory.

Most importantly though, what I bring to my teaching is life long curiosity and passion for the depth of emotional suffering we encounter and the ever surprising power of love, compassion, and understanding to make us whole...

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